How To Have a Bully-Proof Mind and Heart So That No Bully Can Bug You!

So You're Being Bullied...

Being bullied stinks.  It just plain stinks.  But you don't have to keep on putting up with it.  I can show you a way to shield your mind and heart so that insults, taunts, teasing, rude comments just bounce off like you have super hero armor.

Check it out...

Dr. Foster Cline demonstrates how to talk with a child who is upset about being 

teased for excessive coughing caused by her medical condition (cystic fibrosis).

The secret to being able to shield your heart is to have empathy and compassion for others.  I know that's probably not exactly what you want to hear.  You might be thinking about taking Karate or lifting weights and getting revenge on your bullying enemy.  I used to feel the EXACT same way and think the same thing.  But fighting back for revenge will almost always make things worse.  It proves they got to you.


Here is a better way...

I will share with you this ancient wisdom...

If you really want to be mighty and powerful... love your enemy.  Yeah, I know that's not easy but it will get you what you want most of the time.  Show respect and help them keep their dignity.

If you have the courage to accept the challenge:

• You will earn respect if you do it over time.  
• More people will want to be your friend.
• You will win the respect of parents, teachers and most importantly - yourself.
• You will get better at it with practice.
• You will be more popular and accepted.
• You will be happier when you see results.
• You will feel better about yourself.
• You won't get in trouble for fighting or regret saying or doing something later.
• You will learn how to really surprise people acting badly and change their attitude towards you.

You see, it is really, really hard for someone to bully you when you are being nice to them.  That doesn't mean being a push over or letting them be mean.  It means treating them like you would want to be treated if you were in their shoes.  Have you ever made a mistake?  Have you ever had a friend help you through a bad time even when you were being a jerk or a pest?  That's a real friend.

Now in the beginning it will probably get worse as you are being nice.  Why?  They will be confused.  But now you can expect it and remember your plan.  Stay the course and continue being the friend you would want to have if you were in his or her shoes.

Remember that it doesn't have to be your problem.  It is his or her problem.  Think of it as a gift you don't have to receive.

Keep in mind that these tips are for when someone is being rude, horrible, nagging, and a pest.  It is not for when you are being abused, injured or need help.  If you really need help it is important for you to know you are valuable and ask for the help you need.  But if you really take the challenge and FIGHT with KINDNESS you will discover one of the most powerful tools on the planet... to kill cruelty with kindness, fight with forgiveness and win friends, respect and a whole lot more.

Hope and help are available if you want it.  You're not alone.  You're worth fighting for.  

  

Bullies, Bullying and Feeling Like a Coward - The Wise Master Po Lesson from Kung Fu

Arizona Bully Prevention Project USA Martial Arts Teaches How to Deal with Bullies

PHOENIX — A 6th Degree Black Belt Master Instructor and the owner of a martial arts school, John Nottingham was himself the target of bullying when he was younger.   Suffering from allergies and asthma he saw himself as weak and lacked confidence as a child growing up in school.

During the month of March, his program, The Arizona Bullying Intervention Initiative - The Bully Prevention Project is providing Arizona children bullying prevention training free of charge at his Phoenix Martial Arts school.  The event is fully sponsored by Nottingham's Bodyguard security company and USA Martial Arts school.

"I know the pain of being picked on, the fear, the torment and the compounded effects.  I have empathy for those who are the target of bullying and can relate to children when they say they are being bullied," Nottingham said.  That is why confidence building life skills are such a major focus in his children's classes at USA Martial Arts Phoenix at Tatum and Greenway.  

Nottingham, who learned to overcome the bullying shares his strategies from his experience as a military, law enforcement and bodyguard trainer.  I believe we are the only firm combining VIP Security strategies for prevention, last resort intervention and escape.  

According to Nottingham, there are 5 steps he teaches to use when dealing with bullying behavior. He emphasized numerous times that physical force should be an absolute last resort and then only used defensively to escape.

Their method emphasizes an age old martial arts strategy from Samurai Musashi, "To win 100 victories in 100 hundred battles is not th greatest skill.  To win without fighting is the greatest skill."  The children learn that avoiding fighting is the greatest skill, to have self control and "the most powerful person can turn enemies into friends".  

In addition to problem solving, children in Nottingham's classes learn how to use Verbal Judo, speak up for themselves, and when to involve the help of others such as teachers and parents.  The core of Nottingham's curriculum is built on the ABC's of conflict avoidance which incorporates anger management and stress management techniques.

Instead of resorting to violence or becoming a passive victim, Nottingham said that they equip children with the skills to respond rather than simply react with role play and humor.

“We teach to deter, detect, diffuse and last defend.  You can diffuse and redirect the taunts of bullying,” Nottingham said. For instance, he added, just making a joke can diffuse bullying and earn respect. Bullying is about power", states Nottingham.

Nottingham said children who demonstrate bullying behavior seek targets based on perceived vulnerability.  The need to know that they can get away with it and that is why the misguided advice of "just walk away" usually leads to more victimization for children.

“Evidence shows that the more a child reacts emotionally or shrinks, the more the bullying behavior is encouraged,” Nottingham said. He and his staff of Black Belt instructors encourage role play situations where a child might be bullied and practice stress managing breathing to help calm nerves and prevent a child from crying or encouraging more bullying.

Another tactic for a child is to stay with a group of other kids or near a teacher or adult. Bullies are far more likely to target kids who are alone or unprotected.  Nottingham teaches children to avoid 'Hot Zones', or areas most likely to be targeted for bullying.

How does Nottingham know his ideas really work?  Not only did he learn to deal with bullying as a child, he has since trained thousands of children, teachers and parents his methods.  When he isn't teaching Police and Military, he is working in the community to share his peaceful methods of conflict avoidance and bullying prevention.

“What we teach is unique and we have seen the amazing results,” he said.

Children learn to avoid conflict and still keep their dignity.  They also learn the importance of standing up for others and not standing by passively when they see others being bullied.

Nottingham emphasized kids and parents have to be realistic and remember that while most bullying scenarios can be defused, sometimes the child is going to get struck, slapped, tripped or pushed no matter what the boy or girl does. He also stated that children do not need to be Jet Li or Chuck Norris in order to use some basic defensive martial arts techniques if force becomes necessary.  Children need to know that in certain rare situations that they have a right and responsibility to protect themselves and that nobody has a right to harm them.

“Research and our evidence clearly shows that that the majority of protecting yourself is having the confidence to know you can,” Nottingham said.  The good news is that we provide children, parents and teachers with hope from practical and proven skills.

To register for these free bully prevention classes contact USA Martial Arts Phoenix at the links below or call 602-896-8721

• How To Deal With a Bully Without Fighting
• How To Turn Your Bully Into a Buddy
• Bully Proofing Your Child

ScottsdaleBodyguard.com Nottingham Sword & Shield Security

USA-MartialArts.com Phoenix Self Defense Martial Arts and Kickboxing

Phoenix-MartialArts.com Arizona Martial Arts Lessons for Men, Women, Children

KidsLoveMartialArtsPhoenix.com Web Special!

Arizona Bully Project - Bully Proof Training For Parents, Teachers and Children

Dear Parents and Teachers:


Do you remember seeing kids get bullied?
Did it happen to you when you were a kid? How did it make you feel?
Do you remember the names of the bullies when you were a kid? 


This Special Training Class Will Reveal…

• How To Easily Spot and Read The Bully.
• How To Defeat The Bully WITHOUT Fighting or Violence.
• The Secret Word That Always Stops The Bully In His Tracks
• The Little Known Strategies For Dealing With Mental & Cyber Bullying
• How To Deal With a Bully – In The Real World!
• Much Much More

Bully Information, Resources, Training and Advice
The Arizona Bully Project
Bully Proof Training For Parents, Teachers and Children
USA Martial Arts Phoenix | Nottingham Sword & Shield Security Bodyguards
4731 E. Greenway Road Suite 9
Phoenix, Arizona 85032
(602) 896-8721
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