“How to Effectively Bully and Victim Proof Your Child”
Former Soldier and Martial Arts Master Shares His 5 Step Program That Will Catapult Your Child’s Confidence, Instill an “I-Can” Attitude & Provide Them the Practical Tools to Protect Themselves from Bullies
Dear Arizona Parent:
You may have read about it, but according to the Center for Disease Control:
- Bullying is the #1 cause of school children's absenteeism in the U.S.A.
- Bullying has been linked to higher rates of teen depression and suicide.
- Rigby (2002), who is a respected researcher on the topic of bullying, nationally and internationally, states:“Bullying involves a desire to hurt + hurtful action + a power imbalance + (typically) repetition + an unjust use of power + evident enjoyment by the aggressor and generally a sense of being oppressed on the part of the victim.” (p 51)
- Every day, 160,000 students skip school because they fear being bullied, according to the PACER Center, a parent training and information center for families of children. According to the National Association of School Psychologists,
- 1 in 7 schoolchildren is a bully or victim
- Bullying affects 5 million school children in U.S.
You may be thinking to yourself, "Do I know the techniques, tools and strategies to help my child confront today's bullying dangers?
Don’t worry – there IS a solution - but before I get to it, let me tell you a story about a boy who was the target of a bully and how it changed his life forever…
Skinny, Un-Athletic Asthmatic
Tormented by a Bully
- His father told him to punch the bully right in the nose to "teach him a lesson".
- His mother told him to just walk away.
- His teachers never knew about it because the bullying took place out of their sight, and often off school grounds, on the way to or from school.
He was afraid of getting in trouble for fighting, calling attention to his problem. But far more than that was the pain of keeping the secret. The secret was that he was scared, frustrated and felt trapped. That anger turned inward turned into feeling depressed as the bullying kept up over time.
But that all changed. He found a way:
- To stand tall, walk proud and keep his dignity
- Stand up to the bully
- To defeat a bully without fighting
- In fact, he earned the respect of the bully and his classmates
- Most importantly, he felt better about himself
- Plus he used the lesson many more times in the future
By Standing Up to the Bullying, He Won Self-Respect and His New Power Helped Him Help Others
Yes, as you probably guessed, that boy was me. Today I use those experiences to relate to other kids facing bullying in their lives. You see, I've helped thousands of children find their inner strength, their voice and successfully learn how to deal with bullying, conflicts and the most dangerous situations.
My name is John Nottingham and I am a 6th Degree Black Belt in the Martial Arts. I've trained in China, Korea and all over the world with some of the best of the best. I also served in the Army Airborne and taught some of the roughest, toughest heroes in the world hand-to-hand, hand-to-weapon military combatives while serving in a Special Forces reserve unit.
Today I own a Executive Bodyguard Security and Training Company, am a licensed Private Investigator and an award winning Martial Arts school. Over the past twenty five plus years, I have helped thousands of people from all walks of life discover their inner strength and stand up for themselves in every aspect of their lives.
From children who were getting tormented school to women feeling trapped in unhealthy relationships; from employees being mistreated by their bosses to Police and Security who have to use their skills daily on the streets. Not standing up for yourself from bullying can be just like a toxin that attacks your self concept and destroys dreams, hope and goals from the inside out.
