- Is The Anti-Bullying Movement like the Failed Stranger Danger Movement?
- Why is the Anti-Bullying Movement now a centralized Federal government effort, spending your tax dollars, rather than a local, family, teacher, school issue?
- Why are the so called bullying prevention programs not designed by professional protectors?
- Does your child's anti-bullying program infringe on free speech?
- Does your child's school anti-bullying program scare your child into being a victim and not defending himself if physically attacked?
- Is bullying really a crisis? Is bullying an epidemic? Is bullying really different present day as compared to the past? What exactly is "bullying" by strict definition anyway?
Teacher: "We have a great bullying prevention program." (implying we don't need yours).JN: "Really? What makes it so good?"Teacher: "They make sure to teach the kids to speak up. Our school takes bullying really seriously. They have meetings, assemblies and everything."JN: "That's great. What do they teach if the child is getting beat up?Teacher: "Uhhh??"JN: "Here's my question...what if right now, your child is being held in a headlock, hair pulled, punched in the eye then thrown to the ground?"Teacher: [Blank stare. Pause. Eyebrows raise.] Hmm. "To report it?"JN: "Do you believe that is the best response and willing to accept those consequences? What about the child?"Teacher: "Hm. I never thought of it that way."JN: Research indicates that over 85% of bullying goes unreported. What about those times?JN: If there were a way to teach your child how to safely escape that situation with minimal damage to either child would you want to learn about it?"That's my definition of a bullying prevention program. It must address the reality of aggressive behavior, conflict management and problem solving in the context of a child's daily life - in or out of school.
o Trainer to military, law enforcement and bodyguardso Graduate of Gavin de Beckers Academy for Protectors and trained in Advanced Threat Assessment and Managemento Taught over 10,000 students in my careero 6th Degree Master multiple Black Belt holdero Trained by the US Army for Military Intelligenceo 20 plus years of bullying prevention and self-defense research, practice and training
Wishful thinking is not effective self-defense. Nor is leaving children to their own devices when push comes to shove. If children do not know what appropriate physical intervention skills they can use, they may over-react and respond with excessive force.Excessive force can be the result of ineffectively or inappropriately applied force options. There are appropriate force, humane and responsible physical intervention techniques available.Our programs present options for using simple distractions, leverage and defensive physical intervention techniques. It protects all the children involved while being socially, morally and legally conscientious.
Pre-contact and post-contact solutions are important, however it does nothing to help a desperate child having the daylights beat and kicked out of him or her.